Now look at the flip side в if he loves you, and realizes you fully believe, how will he deal with the importance of the temple to you. Earlier I mentioned "Even if the church believes a bunch of crazy nonsense, and she believes it too, I still really like her and would like to see whether we can have some good intellectual conversations about this stuff. She seems to be ok with that, and wants to continue our relationship, and also talks about wanting marriage and children, and raising those children to be mormon like her even if I'm not religious. I made the decision not to have those things when I married a non-member. They must refrain not only from sex, but also passionate kissing or similar physical contact, or any act that arouses such feelings. I'm so sick of waiting around every night and weekend to see if he will have a minute for me. He doesn't even think he works that much even though he sleeps 5 hours a night when he sleeps at all. So basically we were lies to for years. Take extra care to communicate your needs once a week- don't do it every day.
Do you want a home that is focused on the church with all of the blessings there of or a home that is devoid of the blessings of the priesthood, Sundays without your husband at your side at church with your children celebrating in the gospel. It's been really helpful already. Most want nothing to do with the church. Long story short, everyone is dead on.
When he comes home he's so exhausted and just wants to veg out and this leaves me alone again. But wait a minute. It's easy to be blind to deal-breaking faults when you are young and in love.
That being sais, just be honest. Her dad is a bishop Oh, I should clarify we're both in our late 20s and living independently from parents. I feel sorry for you, not because your husbands are working so hard but because you gave up your own lives. For the first time in my life, at age twenty-seven, I am in a relationship that is good and loving and serious enough that I believe it may lead to marriage.